Obedience v. Morality: Dueling Concepts

I have seen several discussions on the concept that the union of authority dynamics being embedded in the compatibility of partners.

I agree that a relationship, regardless of nature, is indeed founded its compatibility.

Being like-minded, myself

As individuals, and very much the ideal of nurturing that individuality, wanting someone that can and does think for himself or herself, yet create a union of " like minds" in certain aspects.

I have seen the concepts voiced of " thinking alike" or taking on the thinking of their "D-type", still not losing their own individuality.

Example: "My submissive would do as "I", would do", in a situation for instance.

Now this is not uncommon in decision making, and commonly exemplified in more mundane decisions perhaps. However, I believe it can and many times becomes deeper, more aligned, and more in union. Not only because like morals and ideas were the the same initially.

I am one who believes that submission in an authority dynamic is more than merely about obedience, just as dominance is more than merely about giving commands.

I also believe that one makes a choice for himself or herself as to what they will or not do, based on their own moral compass. Regardless, we are not talking about force, nor coercion here, we are talking about cognizant and cogent thought.

Granted that there is a trust and compatibility established that comforts ones security that they would not be asked to do certain things that would be so against their morals and ideals. To me that is a "no-brainer". I would not ask her to do something illegal, nor injure another, etc.

Those are easily discarded from consideration, and the point being, our moral compatibility and trust that I would not is aligned.

The depth and type of compatibility, the ever changing of individuals over time beliefs, thinking, behaviors, even morals is dynamic, not stagnant.

So given the idea of personal and individual moral in regard to obedience, I ran across this saying today.

What are your thoughts in this regard?