Anal sex is something
that some people like and want to experience, but not everyone feels that way.
Anal sex can enhance
your sex life. Some find anal sex to be taboo, some consider it disgusting,
some just think it is not worth the pain, and some think it is kinky.
If you are going to
engage in it anal sex or any anal play what should be said is do it right so
that it will be safe.
Anal sex can enjoyable
because of sensitive nerve endings in the anus.
Most people often
experience pain when first attempting anal sex, but as I am here to explain to
you as a person learns to relax the pain often subsides into pleasure.
This just does not go
for women; anal sex for men offers stimulation to the prostate, an organ that
provides an abundance of pleasure during orgasm.
When wanting to
explore anal sex lots of questions come up and here are some frequently asked
questions and answers to those questions:
Are there any safety
concerns?
You should keep in
mind 3 main things:
1. Lubrication
2. Condoms
3. Common sense
whenever anal penetration is taking place.
When considering
exactly what "common sense" really is, it really encompasses several
things.
First major rule is to
make sure that whatever touches the anus should not touch anything else.
The next major rule is
never, under any circumstances, take the penis out of the anus and put it into
the vagina.
That can lead to
serious infections and other complications.
In order to prevent
infections and complications from occurring, there are a few precautions every
couple should consider.
The big precaution is
to use a condom on cocks and sex toys or any other inserts.
Use a latex glove on
hands even if just using your fingers.
Also, it is suggested
to take a baby wipe and wipe after anal sex, and if switching so that any of the
lube that was in the ass does not drip down onto the vagina.
Remember to wipe front
to back.
Baby wipes are made
for the genital area and much less harsh than other wipes, like antibacterial
wipes.
It is also recommended
to urinate and wash up after sex to rinse out any remaining bacteria and
prevent a urinary tract infection.
Will there be a
stretching out so that there may be loss of bowel control?
If it done right,
there will not be any problems. That said, generally speaking there is no
relative danger of losing your bowels or being stretched out to the degree of
losing control.
The best policy is to
take it slow so that you work your way up to being anally penetrated by a
penis.
Bear in mind, that the
tissue of the rectum is very sensitive.
It does require care,
but if you take things slow when being penetrated and stop if it is hurting,
you will not damage the tissue.
By stopping, I do not
mean pull out of the anus, but have the person just stop and not move, not pull
out or push inward.
Just have him or her
stay still. That is sometimes hard to do, because instinct may be to pull out
immediately because your partner is in pain.
The important thing is
to be mindful of your partner and what they are going through. If it is still
hurting after they stop and you relax those muscles, then having the partner
pull out is advisable.
The sphincter muscles
have to relax to have anal sex.
While it may seem like
an impossible feat to try to unclinch that part of your body, it takes time and
practice, but by trying to tell those muscles to relax, you are also tightening
them too.
Think of it as kegels
for the ass, like with most exercises, at first it might seem hard to do but
over time your muscles are going to respond better which will make them be in
better shape.
All of this applies to
the muscles in your rectum.
If you start noticing
the muscles in the ass more you most likely be able to have more control over
your bowels.
Can one get STD's
through Anal Sex?
Yes you can!
Use gloves, condoms
and dental dams for safe sex to prevent STD's
.
Anal sex and
transmission of STD's remains the same if you were having oral or vaginal sex.
AIDS, herpes, genital
warts, chlamydia, syphilis and so on can all be transmitted through anal sex.
So the same rules that go for oral and vaginal sex, go for anal sex: you should
cover up and wear a condom. It's not worth the risk to you or your partner(s).
How much of a mess is
there?
If you have a bowel
movement before have anal sex, there might only be a trace amount of fecal
matter in the rectum, and if it feels like you need to go while you are having
anal sex then stop and go.
If you don't listen to
your body then you might end up with a lot larger mess on your hands. Now if
you do have a mess, then just go clean up. But in most cases if you have had a
bowel movement a few hours before having anal sex you will not have a mess.
Condoms that I
mentioned are for safe sex also come in handy when cleaning up a mess. Just
take it off and throw it away.
Again, baby wipes for
cleaning up. They are just even great for after any kind of sex to clean up.
Keep a box in the
nightstand.
Also, do not be too
alarmed if you happen to see a little bit of blood, as the anus fibers expand,
they may cause little tears in the membrane.
Just as if someone had
a large bowel movement with blood, sometimes this happens. If there are some
initial signs of bleeding, continuing to have anal sex may not be a good idea.
Exercise good judgment
and talk to your partner about how comfortable they may be with continuing or
stopping.
How does one get clean
before anal sex?
Well, as I said above,
just having a bowel movement before hand can be enough, but if you want you
could take a bath or shower and wash the area.
You can even use a
finger to massage water slightly inside the rim of the anus.
This will also help to
relax the outer muscles of the sphincter, or if you want to feel even cleaner
you could do an enema.
An enema is not
necessary in order to have safe, clean anal sex, but some people find that an
enema reassures them about not having a mess and being more clean.
For first-time enema
users, most drug store sell fleet enemas, they are for generally for those
people that need a laxative.
So, the first thing
you do when you get it home is empty it out and refill it with warm water.
You do not need to
take a laxative, you just want to get cleaned out and warm water will do that
all by itself.
After following the
instructions on the package and giving yourself an enema, wait 2- 3 hours prior
to anal sex to give your body a chance to reabsorb water.
Also, because I have
heard of people that have done this, a vaginal douche is not the same thing as
an enema.
Please don't flush a
vaginal douche into your rectum.
It is not made for
your rectum and can potentially lead to medical complications.
A douche is specially
formulated for the vaginal region, just as an enema is meant for the anus.
Never had anal sex how
does one prepare?
First and foremost:
relax. The sphincter muscles around the anus will tense up and not allow
anything to pass through easily unless you relax and take it slow.
Some people may
meditate before anal sex, or take a long relaxing bath, playing soft music. By
incorporating an enema a couple of hours before play, but it also works as a
mental assistant to a degree because it almost prepares the mind and the anus
of what may be to come.
Working past an enema
is a good solid step towards doing other anal activity.
Some people use enemas
during their foreplay as a means of getting in touch with their partner before
having anal sex.
When you feel like you
are ready, start slow by using a finger first, then maybe two fingers, then
maybe move up to a small butt plug with lubrication.
Please do not start
with something the size of a dildo or penis, as the basic principle is to start
small and work your way up.
The first time you try
this, you may feel a bit of pain. Just stop and take some deep breaths and try
to relax all your rectum muscles.
A way to do that is to
push out as if you are going to the bathroom and your partner gent pushes in
that opens me up and makes my sphincter muscles relax more easily.
It is important to
note that anal sex is not for everyone, and if you reach a point where you no
longer feel uncomfortable, then stop.
You can always try again
later.
Think of this process
as training for later anal encounters.
A finger and small
butt plug can provide profound stimulation when it is inserted in the rectum.
As I said at the
beginning of the essay, use your common sense.
The rectal wall curves
and is thin so long, so go very slow.
Do not wear any
jewelry on your hands and cut your fingernails, if you are going use fingers in
the ass, and do not push the limits and go only as far as you feel comfortable,
because if your body is hurting too much then there is something wrong.
Can we just jump into
anal sex?
I suggest having some
foreplay before jumping straight into anal sex.
Use fingers and a
small butt plug to help the person relax before being penetrated with a penis.
Move your gloved and
lubricated finger or plug in small circular motions around the anus
.
Pay attention to your
partner to indicate whether or not he or she feels comfortable.
Slowly attempt to push
your finger or plug slightly inside the anus.
Do not use force.
Stop immediately if
your partner complains of discomfort.
If it is difficult to
enter the anus, you probably need more lubrication, or your partner needs to
relax more.
After warming up with
some foreplay, then move onto penetrating the ass with a cock.
Again, use common sense,
plenty of lube, go slow, even pushing in a little stopping, holding that
position giving your partner some time to relax.
Again, go slow even
though the foreplay will help it is still important to go slow.
How does one get past
the pain?
Well, as I stated
above start small with a small butt plug or fingers, and sometimes it takes
several sessions before being able to handle anal sex.
Do not be discouraged,
as there should not be any pressure to just jump to being penetrated by a penis
or a strap-on.
I would even recommend
having some extended foreplay before your partner even attempts penetration
with a finger, toys or cock.
The more aroused you
get, the more your body will relax.
Again remember, the
more you tighten, the more likely it's going to cause you pain.
Cannot get past the
tip because of the pain?
The answer to the
question above will also help with this answer.
If you have pain when
the tip is inserted, have your partner stop, not pull out, just stop right
there and hold position.
Then, take some deep
breaths and start to relax the rectum muscles, pushing out even a little to
open those muscles and then have them relax against the cock.
The pain should
subside and you still might feel some discomfort, but it is probably from not
having something pushing in and also from just being stretched open.
Relax, go slow, and
each time it hurts, repeat the process have the partner stop and get used to
it.
Soon, you will be able
to have the penis moving in and out of you, push out, relax, take deep breaths,
and you should get past the tip and the pain.
Do you really need
lube?
Yes, you really need
lube, as the rectum is lined with very sensitive tissue that can rip if not
handled with care.
So, using plenty of
lube is absolutely necessary, and I also recommend a water-based lube, so that
it will not destroy your condoms or gloves during anal sex, as that would be
bad.
What position works
best and makes it hurt less?
That really is going
to have to something both work to find, as there is no position that will
really make it hurt less because for one person it might hurt less doggies
style while another it might be spooning and yet another missionary.
Anal sex is not a
sport, regardless of what you read online!
Anal sex is not for
everyone, and the thing to remember is to go slow, using plenty of lube and use
common sense.
I am not an expert on
anal sex, as I just enjoy and am telling others what I have learned and
questions I have been asked about anal sex.
Go out and explore and
enjoy anal sex! Please!
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