I would have a tendency to agree that dom-space is
the top's equivalent of sub-space.
Similarly, each individual's experience that
amazing, awesome altered state of mind or being can, more or less, vary.
I know that no two people will have exactly
the same experience with this particular event.
However, a dominant does not lose control of
his or her thoughts or actions in most instances. Instead, the opposite tends
to happen.
Some who have provided a description of domspace state
it is like an intensification of what is occurring in a given scene.
There are those who have said that they can
feel the presence of the submissive, his or her beating heart, their breathing,
and even their thoughts.
From a personal standpoint, I would define
this amazing altered state as a mental bonding between a dominant and
submissive, where they both achieve a crescendo that words are no longer needed
and they both are functioning on pure instinct.
I have spoken with many of my dominant friends
and others in the local community who have confided to me that when this
happens, they just know what to do and when to do it, in order to achieve
exactly the response they desire.
It is many times described as a feeling that
the toy or riding crop is nothing more than an extension of their arm; a part
of something that is totally disengaged from themselves.
Many dominants and tops, myself included, who
have experienced domspace will include in their description, a
heightened sense of physical arousal beyond anything that is deemed normal.
During such an arousal, I agree that every
nerve in the body becomes extremely sensitive, to the point that he or she can
actually feel the very air touching their skin.
Some individuals will use the term domspace to
describe a mental mind set, which pertains to a psychological feeling of
control and power that occurs within the dominant, and this particular use can
happen outside of a scene, as well as, being in the midst of one.
It is a very personal experience,
whereas, subspace often includes the submissive.
This is more of a singular sensation, which
gives an acute awareness of his or her personal power and position. It can be
rather strong, to the point of affecting the dominant's body with physical
arousal, or rising strength.
It is an incredible mental adrenaline rush,
and
some have provided a description of it being a
heady feeling that many times strikes when the submissive blatantly
demonstrates their submission.
For instance, a sub agrees to attempt a new
task even though he or she is uncertain if they will enjoy it.
Viewing the submissive kneeling in all of his
or her nakedness, waiting to receive the instructions, can be a powerful head
rush within the dominant.
Or, the submissive accepts a permanent mark of
ownership, like a tattoo, brand, or piercing.
Watching the submissive take this marking
willingly, can create an intense feeling of ownership, responsibility, and
power within the dominant also.
Like subspace, domspace requires
the appropriate environment or trigger, in order for the top to achieve that
incredible mind space.
It can something as easy as the submissive
kneeling without being told to do so, or as complex a very involved session.
The intensity of that mind space is very
personalizing.
Others describe it as mild, there are some who
view it as being psychic where they actually see and feel the submissive; even
with their eyes close.
I firmly feel that the ability to
achieve domspace is affected by such aspects as physical
health and stress level.
There are those who have experienced this
amazing state of mind and being, and they consider it an actual reality.
Those who have not experienced it, often tend
to dismiss it as a fantasy. I will leave it up to each of you to decide whether
it is or not.
Author: Raven Shadowborne © 1999
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