DSM and Co-Dependency

If a submissive feels that he or she has the need in their lives to be controlled with every day normal things, like eating, sleeping, what to wear, etc., does this make them co-dependent?

If these aspects of his or her life are not dominated, therefore, lacking, and the submissive does not take care of himself or herself as they should, does that mean that there are underlying problems?

Do those who fall into a slavery role and willfully hand themselves over to an owner, start to place themselves into the pattern where they begin to fall short in their every day lives unless being given guidance?

"Some people bring out the worst in you, others bring out the best, and then there are those remarkably rare and addictive ones who bring out the most of everything. They make you feel so alive that you would follow them straight into hell just to keep getting your fix."

~Unknown~

NOTE: These are just questions are up for discussion, not to make any implications that co-dependence and the lifestyle are synonymous or not, because that particular call is left up to the people involved.

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David Coates I think there is a difference between needing and wanting structure and the dynamic of a strong Dominant to guide, then being co-dependent. In my view, co-dependency begins when the submissive is no longer interested in their own well being and will put it aside for someone else.

This is not healthy submission. This is being an emotional doormat.

With that said, I believe there are many, many subs/slaves who are co-dependent, which is why they are so easily taken advantage of by ill intended Dominants who don't care about their submissive's growth or well being.

September 28 at 6:03am ·

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