Dominant Growth and Evolution

We often see numerous discussions of how the submissive grows and evolves within a D/s framework, which has peaked my curiosity, since little is written about the growth and evolution of the Dominant within the power-exchange dynamic framework.

Does the Dominant remain unchanged?

If so, what inspires or leads the Dominant's evolution?

Moreover, how can the submissive positively influence the Dominant's growth while remaining within the framework?

More importantly, do you seek out a submissive that will challenge you and help you grow?

Or, do you know yourself and stay in your comfort zone and seek s-types that can grow toward you?

David Coates Personally speaking solely for myself and my experiences within D/s.

So often there is discussion of how the submissive grows and evolves within a D/s framework. I am curious, does the Dominant remain unchanged?

A Dominant's growth is stemmed from the cultivation of his submissive. If the sub does not exhibit growth, then their partner has nothing to watch and calibrate.

This calibration is what makes experience a powerful teacher.

How can the submissive positively influence the Dominant's growth while remaining within the framework?

I think it is great that (s) types want to influence their D's growth. The best thing, IMHO, that you can do is follow D's leadership, ask any questions that you may have concerning their leadership, and relay information they would find useful back to them. Otherwise just keep doing what you do. My (D's) growth will come naturally as we (both partners) run into and remedy the challenges of our relationship.

Do you seek out a submissive that will challenge you and help you grow?

No, our challenges will come naturally through life. Anything extra is unnecessary, in my viewpoint.

Or, do you know yourself and stay in your comfort zone and seek Subs that can grow toward you?

I seek desire for growth. Nothing more, nothing lessBottom of Form