Developmental Dominance

I am cognizant that dominance goes way beyond simply being on top in a scene or particular activities.

The emerging process of a constant and consistent Dominant can require a number of years.

There is a great deal of depth in dominance, which is much more than just thinking selfishly and acting in a domineering manner.

IMHO, such individuals are motivated by weakness rather than strength, and he or she lack may be lacking in the emotional and/or mental self-discipline department, which I feel is an important prerequisite to remain on top.

Those who tend focus chiefly on themselves are not building a power-exchange connection.

I do see that public events are a vital part of the process of learning, but not necessarily essential but rather helpful.

Individuals can ascertain a great deal from public play, and some are actually aroused by it.

Bottom line: It can be a very critical aspect of Dominant development.

However, the power-exchange, typically, is about the polarizing linkage between two partners in the process of becoming one in a fashion that is indicative of telepathy.

Generally, it is more effective when a power-exchange couple are alone together, as they would strongly be focusing on each other when they playing to an audience.

In addition to ascertaining how to perform certain aspects effectively, some dominants feel that particular protocols reinforce, thereby, help to sustain the power-exchange connection.

These are of greater assistance outside of a scene or other BDSM-related activities.

Typically, human interactions have a strong tendency to follow protocols, even if we are unaware of them or do not like the term.

While various groups usually have protocols they follow when they gather, there is no one set of proper protocols for a Dominant and their partner.

While we can get some tips and pointers based on what others do or have done, I feel that each Dominant ultimately chooses his or her own path in this regard.

Once an individual advances beyond being a top in a scene to becoming a full-fledged Dominant, he or she tends to discover their initial power-exchange may be short-term learning experiences.

I suspect those who make an attempt in the conversion of a vanilla relationship into a one of power-exchange nature, sometimes are not very successful.

It require a great deal of time to emerge as a strong, self-disciplined Dominant, and it also takes awhile to find the right partner and build a strong relationship.

If a relationship does not work out, it does not necessarily mean either partner is flawed.

There can be many reasons for this particular outcome ( This, by no means, is all of them)

1. There may not be chemistry or compatibility.

Just because one person is dominant and other is submissive, does not necessarily preclude the fact that they belong together. The power-exchange does not exist in a vacuum.

2. Simply put, they may not be ready to go further.

Note: I think this information thread post is also applicable to subs and/or slaves also.

"Never forget the love in the command."

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