Conflicted Identities

Some folks basically in their real-life, consider themselves staunch feminists or masculine, while attempting to make sense of this power exchange and reconciling with how it can fit with a person who does not need ANY person to 'protect' them.

However, there are those who have realized that they do want to submit, but always it will be of their choice, their gift to their Dominant..

There are a number of folks who were very turned off by the whole notion of a Dominant/submissive dynamic initially, but upon closer or deeper exploration, some begin to wonder whether if this right for them. Quite a few do identify with a lot of the dynamic and I do find it desirable to find a 'Dominant' figure.

However, there are those who are just having a very difficult time of reconciling the independent person side of them, and the 'I need a big strong individual to protect me from the big bad world'.

It just goes against EVERYTHING some folks believe.

The idea of having someone they trust and love as a mentor to lean on and draw strength from is very attractive.

Some folks know for certain that they will never do age-play, or any of that "little", or even just D/s role-playing, or any of that "D/s-speak" stuff (that REALLY can weird some folks out).

Also, there are those who will never call anyone "Daddy, Mommy, Master, Mistress or Sir'" etc., either, however, the older person protective figure has strong attractions for some.

Any other strong, independent folks in this group who has struggled with the same?

How did you deal?

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