Monday, December 15, 2014

Independent and Strong Subs?


I suspect that there a number of folks who identify as submissive, however, a great many would not realize it.
There are a quite a few subs who have a very strong, Dominant personality, intermittently, and are rather opinionated when it comes to certain aspects.
It is very likely that these particular individuals have been through hell, made mistakes, and have come out the other side of it proud, confident, sure and unrepentant.
However, when it comes to personal relationships, they tend to have this deep-seated longing to be controlled, commanded, and dominated.
He or she does not desire to be dominant in relationships, and they do not enjoy it.
I suspect it is the thrill of surrendering, bending to a will that is stronger than his or her own, being treated like an object, or being used.
Some may feel that it is more of an arousal than any foreplay he or she has ever had, and it tends to inspire a pure, unwavering loyalty in them that they do not often experience.
I suspect the only dilemma is, despite his or her desire to be submissive, their dominant streak sometimes holds them back.
Perhaps, something was not said in an intimidating-enough tone, or something is allowed to slip and he or she was not admonished for it, and they cannot find or see themselves able to submit to something or someone that is not complete domination.
This particular thread post poses the following questions:
How many subs out there are strong-willed, independent, proud and unrepentant?
OR
Do you feel you could possibly be a Dominant in denial?
MORE IMPORTANTLY,
How do your keep the strength from conflicting with the desire to obey?
Source: Unknown

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David Coates I think that reaction from a strong sub or slave is normal.

It is not enough in D/s to just submit to another, you also have to be 'taken' by the Dominant.

When a sub simply submits to me without any effort or anything very dominating from my part of it,

I just do not have any serious interest in that sub anymore.

It does not feel real when it is too easy, IMHO.
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